Ego-dystonic Thoughts - an internal struggle

Ego-dystonic thoughts refer to thoughts, impulses, or ideas that are inconsistent or in conflict with a person's fundamental beliefs, attitudes, values, and self-image. They are unwanted and when meaning is attached to the occurrence of these thoughts, they cause significant distress and discomfort for the individual and can result in what feels like an internal tug of war. This internal struggle and resultant difficult emotions and distress is exhausting because it's like a battle between your true self, values, intent, desire, and beliefs, and how our very complex thinking machine can be very creative and inventive with the random thoughts it produces. When you really think about it, we need the ability to have spontaneous thoughts in order to be creative and solve problems because this is how we can imagine new ideas and invent. Without this capacity we would have no movies or fiction writing portraying terrifying stories etc. The brain needs to generate thousands of thoughts every day and not all of those thoughts will even come into our awareness or be aligned with our values, intentions, or desires.

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No One Size Fits All in Healing: the wisdom of Bessel van der Kolk

I stumbled upon an enlightening passage in Bessel van der Kolk's landmark book 'The Body Keeps the Score' that resonated deeply with me. On page 212, van der Kolk powerfully states, "There is no one 'treatment of choice' for trauma, and any therapist who believes that his or her particular method is the only answer to your problems is suspect of being ideologue rather than somebody who is interested in making sure that you get well." This passage struck a chord because it captures the essence of what effective psychological treatment should be: tailored to the individual needs of the client, compassionate, personalised, collaborative, and open-minded.

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